"Isn't She A Little Young?"
I read an article last summer on a program launched by
They 1st covered laws. Now I am no legal expert but the penalties seem to be quite severe. These are
They then answer a couple questions, “What to do if you are in a relationship with a much younger person & you know it is not right.” I found this somewhat humorous…
“A healthy relationship is one that is based on equality. An adult (over 18) who is in a relationship with a minor cannot, by definition, be equal partners in a relationship. Statutory Rape is not only an issue of consent, but also one of coercion and exploitation. Anytime an adult has a sexual relationship with someone who is underage, it is a form of exploitation, even if no overtly coercive behavior appears to be involved. The adult is using the sexual and emotional inexperience of the teen to get something from them. You may just have the feeling that your relationship with a younger person is not right, or a friend may have told you that your relationship is uncool.”
Can I be honest here? In some cases this may be right, but for the most part this is absolute horseshit. I have been in a relationship where I was over 18, she was under &, I could be wrong here, but it was about as far from coercion and exploitation as it could possibly be. Sure there are guys that nail 16 year olds because they can get it. These are the same guys that are 40 & hitting 18 year olds. I suppose those chicks aren’t coerced and exploited. Na, that is legal it is cool. In my experience, as hard as this may be to believe, I genuinely loved her & didn’t really give a shit about a few years. Had I just been in it for sex, I would have filled her up with roofy cocktails. The next morning when she woke up naked & with a curious itch & some soreness might have raised some questions, but nothing indictable. Let’s be real here, if you want to block sex, either (a) cut of the male’s testicles &/or (b) rid the world of stupid chicks. Neither is going to happen.
The nest section tells us what to do if, “My buddy is involved with a girl & I know it’s not right.”
“You know it's not right. You have asked him "isn't she a little young?" It gets kind of weird when he brings her to parties. Did you know: older men often date girls because they believe they can coerce them into having sex?”
Sure it’s weird when he tries bringing her places but I doubt he is coercing her into sex. I read on…
“Older teens who may not feel confident of their ability to attract and maintain a relationship with an equal may turn to someone younger as a way to bolster self-esteem.”
Don’t relationships in general boost self-esteem?
“Men/older boys who have rigid, stereotyped views of masculinity may see the "conquest" of a young girl as an affirmation of their masculinity.”
Men think they are tough if they get plain laid. You sleep with a younger chick you are getting roasted by your boys, trust me.
“Older teens and adults who have control issues may find it easier to control someone who is younger.”
Actually, in the relationship I was in, control wasn’t really the deal. She wasn’t stupid & well the thing that attracted me was that she actually stood up for herself. Half of women have low self-coincidence & put up with anything from guys. This isn’t really an age thing here.
“Adults who have not been successful in their relationships with other adults may turn to preying on young teens.”
There seems to be a huge difference between 17-18. I suppose an 18 y/o going to a 17 y/o is a huge jump & he or she should go to hell.
Bottom line, I was going to roast the hell out of my friend dating people under 18, just because I felt like being a hypocrite, but this site actually ended up bothering me quite a bit. Now I am not talking about dirtballs like
