Dating: Lessons Learned
I have realized from viewing my site stats that virtually no one reads my Dating Blogs. For most that would mean they would quit writing them,
Well, what to write about? I went into some files & decided to try to clean up some of my unfinished Blogs. I look at the past a lot to learn for the future. That could be why I am going to teach history. A lot of people make the same mistake one time after another,. I tend to think if you give situations & circumstances a second loom once & a while, you can avoid making those mistakes. . I don’t remember what the date was on this one but it is a few of the best lessons I have learned from being in relationships.
- Never hinder someone's dreams. There is a fine line between giving advice & hindering someone’s dreams. The second you cross it, you automatically lose credibility. Personally, I like other opinions & ways of looking at things. Most people don’t though. I can’t emphasize how important listening to, not discussing someone’s dreams is.
- Never project your expectations on someone else. Whether intended or not, your significant other can’t feel like they have to meet some sort of expectations for you. I push myself to find my limits all the time. In the past, my girlfriends often feel like the need to do the same. This can screw some stuff up.
- Don’t look at things as black & white, there is gray. This is a quality that is great in management. Black & white, as long as you are consistent, is a fair system. It really doesn’t work in your personal life. There is a gray & other colors for that matter. I hate math & science for the fact there is one answer. I love philosophy & history for the fact you can have several opinion as to why something is. With this being said, you can disagree with someone as much as you want as to where they stand on something, but you need to respect & accept it.
- A positive outlook on life is essential. I write about this all the time but it is so important & I can’t stress it enough. Some people live by a no regrets philosophy (including myself at one point.), I tend to disagree with this philosophy now. Usually those who live life with no regrets end up being the one’s who regret their lives. It is generally used as an excuse to do something they don’t even really approve of. At one point I used to be someone that always lived for the moment. You just end up trying to do too much. I now can enjoy the day just laying around the house. Both theories are good in moderation I suppose. I think your attitude dictates what is going to happen. If you really believe something is going to happen, it will, positive or negative. It usually takes me 2 times to get things right, once because I think things out, the 2nd because I follow my instincts. That’s why I will probably date the woman I marry for 6 months, break up for 6 months, & then make it work.
- Go with your gut. I am one that used to way over analyze every fucking thing in my life. It just kills you. You ever do something & every indicator said you should go one way, but in your gut you knew it wasn’t right. Trust your gut, your heart, whatever you want to call it. It is usually right on.
Lesson, learn from your mistakes.
I think I am going to try to stick with stories after this for a few weeks. There is a great debit card story in the works as well as one about an old man & his wallet. Until then….
