Cheatin’
If there is 1 thing I cannot understand in relationships, it is cheating. I really do not get it whatsoever. If you make the decision to sleep with someone, at least for me, it is a huge step. I really put a lot of thought into it before I even come close to making a physical step toward it. Sex changes everything. You are putting 100% complete trust in that person.
That is where I don’t understand cheating. How do you break that trust in someone? Everyone has their own definition of cheating I guess, but let me clarify 1 thing. If you at any time have to drop “it technically wasn’t,” it was. When you drop ‘technically’ it pretty much immediately says guilty as charged. I just do not understand how you throw 100% complete trust in someone like that.
I think everyone has dealt with cheating at some point or another. Bottom line, it really sucks. In my experience, it just ripped me apart inside. I think the general tendency is to blame yourself for it. Somewhere along the line you say, “I must not have been doing something right.”
Maybe the best advice I have pulled from these experiences is that it isn’t your fault. Know that it isn’t about you at all. It doesn’t help short term, but a couple of weeks or a month later it helps a ton. I know it’s easy to blame the other person, but it is really the case.
A cheater is a cheater no matter what you have to say. It is the same people who cheat repeatedly. I call them users because that is exactly what they are. We all know them. The insecure person that thinks so lowly of themselves so they go & try to get what others have. I have no respect whatsoever for this type of person. I don’t care who you are, you are not going to change them either.
I love when people drop, ‘Well I am so good they will never have a reason to cheat.” I go back to my earlier point. It really isn’t about you at all, it is about them. They are1 00% self involved. If someone cheats on 3 previous partners, do you honestly think you are going to change that? Once is once, a few times is a trend. People make mistakes but come on.
This goes back to earlier blogs. I truly believe you reap what you sow, karma. These people get what they deserve eventually. Usually it comes as a direct result of such actions. You cheat with someone, it is coming back your way. These are the people that drop, “If you want to know where your heart is...look where your mind goes when it wanders....” after all is said in done because they know they screwed up & don’t have the sack to own up to it.
Anyway…I am unsure if this will ever be of help to someone but I thought I would drop it.
I have a couple of ideas for my next post so until then…
Currently Playing…
The Better Life
By 3DD
“Duck & Run”
