My Girlfreind II
Last may I wrote a Blog about what I was looking for in a woman. It seemed pathetic at the time but I thought I would get it out there because I had been taking a lot of criticism for not dating very many people (Actually I think a chick said I was guy because I wouldn’t date anyone.). Well it seemed to have worked because I had a girlfriend in under a month & in part, because of the article I wrote. I’ll repost it when I can find it.
I know what you are saying…”Didn’t you just proclaim you were gay?” I lied, sorry. I made the decision in haste. You would think with the way I get screwed over by woman I would go 100% gay. The reason I get continually screwed over is the reason I have good relationships in the 1st place. I put 100% trust in the women I date. If I get cheated on again, I am really reconsidering this, but I have a feeling I’ll be ok.
Really, let’s break down my serious relationships. My 1st serious relationship, the 2 of us had no business dating seriously. We were way 2 different & had we not dated, probably would have become really good friends. My 2nd serious relationship, we were a really good match for each other. We dealt with a lot of outside stuff & it really brought us together. In retrospect, it was our immaturity that broke us up. Had we met at a later time, things probably would have been different. My 3rd serious relationship everyone knows the story, but I really have no idea what happened. There are so many positive things I can take from that experience & move forward with though.
I used to always look up to my man Nick Lachey in relationships. I still do. Bro gets jobbed like I do. My new main man is (& please hold the laughs) is Ashley Parker Angel from “There & Back.” Outside of 24, this may be my new favorite show. The duded girlfriend just freaking sucks. Really she is the spawn of Satan. He on the other hand is chill all the time. He is that guy that can kind talk through everything & I see a lot of myself in the way acts.
I only really date people if I can see it going somewhere. Casually dating is really just a waste of time to me. It really doesn’t appeal to me in any way. Last time I was single I hung out with a few chicks & just didn’t find them interesting in the slightest way. If I wanted a cheap whore to hook up with, I don’t really think that would be a problem. I really only work on long term relationships. Trust is a huge thing with me & you build that over time. There is something very attractive to me about developing a friendship & relationship. Everything in your life is better when you can just go to bed knowing that you have someone you would do anything for & they would do anything for you.
I used to hear all the time what a BS customer service face I have. I may have a BS customer service face but I am really always that : There seems to be this perception that me smiling all the time is my bullshit customer service face. I am genuinely happy nearly all the time. Everyone has bad days, but I let little get me down. I like to be sarcastic but that really isn’t all that negative. I just lead a really chill life. Nothing gets me stressed out & I have a plan, but I attack things when I get to them. Really, I may the most positive person I know. If you give me any challenge, it is not going to get me down. I want someone like that, or at least strives for that. I can’t stand people that sit there & bitch about every facet of their life. Life is way too great to worry about piddly little stuff that has no bearing on the outcome of anything.
Growth is another big area for me. I want someone that is constantly looking to grow as a person. This means education & personal life. I am not looking for a philosopher, but at least someone that has pondered at some point where they have come from & where they can go. When I break up with someone I wait a week or so & write brutally honest evaluations of the relations. After that I sit down & write ten things I can do better in the future. To truly grow I think you need to be honest with yourself & genuinely try to fix flaws. In the history of man, maybe one man, Jesus, has been perfect so that is a completely unrealistic expectation. All one can do is be honest with themselves & do the best they can to improve their life. I think this is so important.
Any woman I date has to value family & friends about all. I really combine the 2. my family means so incredibly much to me. I feel like I can talk to my family about everything & they support me through everything. I mean, my [parents still come to watch me coach CYO ball. Having a family behind you like that makes life a lot more enjoyable. My friends also mean a lot to me. My friends take my back through everything, even when they have 0 reason too, & have proven so several times. A woman that values the people around her is incredibly important. You don’t have to be from the perfect family or anything like that, just have an idea of what the important people in your life mean to you & let them know you appreciate it. This carries over to a relationship. I think a deep friendship & respect for each other is the key to a great relationship & your relationships mirror your friendships. If you hang out with a bunch of people you sue for everything, that will carry over to your relationship.
Style is something I definitely look at & I don’t think it is shallow in the least bit. Self respect permeates every facet of your personality. Someone that is active, works out, & takes care of themselves is important. I am not looking for Elisha Cuthbert, but not a burn victim either, just someone that has a sense of style & takes care of themselves.
Everyone thinks you need to have a ton of common interests to make a relationship work. Eventually yes, but not really at the beginning. If you click with someone, you click with them, bottom-line. Similar interests & things like that develop over time. The one thing any woman I date has to have is a love of, or at least a willingness to listen to country music. Outside of that I can have fun, & do have fun, doing everything. Life is about having a good time.
Like I said before, I am not looking for a needy person in the least bit. There are the needy little losers that whine & make people sorry for them to get chicks. These are the chicks that think they can ‘change’ or ‘fix’ everything. Sorry to break the news, it doesn’t work. There are other chicks that date complete asshole guys because they have zero self confidence themselves. Then they whine because they get treated like crap. Then there are those of us in the middle that don’t have serious need or want issues. Sometimes I wonder how many there are of us, but I know there are. This is the person I am looking for.
Communication is the final thing that is really important to me. If there is any problem I want to talk about it before it turns into anything. You have to be able to talk to the person you are with. I love it when people are having sex, but are unable to even talk about the ramifications of the sex. If you are desperate for love, buy a dog or something, you at least won’t catch STD’s from them. OK, I didn’t mean that like sleep with the dog, just though I would clear that up.
There’s a lot more I could say, but how would I write 15 more dating Blogs? That is the end to my rather pathetic personal ad, enjoy….Below is a profile survey I took, I found it interesting because it hit me 100%...
Your positive traits:
• You're intuitive enough to know what's going wrong in a relationship early on
• A total sweetheart - you're often the most caring person anyone knows
• You are a generous and devoted partner to whoever you fall in love with
Your negative traits:
• Insecurity - you tend to need a huge amount of comforting from your partner
• You tend to be overly sensitive and easily hurt, which make loving you difficult
Your ideal partner:
• Someone equally sensitive, who wants to take time to get to know you deeply
• Dreams of an everlasting love - complete with marriage and a family
• Loves to take care of you. Being a good cook and masseuse doesn't hurt!
Your dating style:
• Slow. You enjoy dates that last all day, with plenty of time to talk and get to know one another.
Your seduction style:
• Quite tender and loving, once you are comfortable in your relationship.
• Coy. You tend to play it cool to drive your lover wild.
• Orally talented - you're known as the best kisser in the zodiac.
• You possess an unbridled sensuality that appeals to many.
• The minute you meet anyone, you can make them crave you almost immediately.
• You give others the chance to lose control with you... spiraling into carnal bliss.
Tips for the future:
• Be a little less sensitive. Not every little mistake should hurt you.
• Spend time away from your partner every so often - independence is a good thing.
• Find ways to take care of yourself. You'll be happier if you put yourself first.
Best color to attract mate: Aqua
Best day for a date: Wednesday
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