My Girlfriend
There seems to be a topic about me that continually comes up at work, “Why don’t I date?” Now it had gotten to the point I am gay, because I don’t date my female coworkers. Luckily I found it hilarious, but WTF? I am too good for everyone….because I won’t date anyone? You want reasons…
Reason #1: I don’t date coworkers, I am the guy that doesn’t flirt with anyone in work & doesn’t want in on any drama.
Reason #2: I said I would only date someone if I thought it could go somewhere. Of the few chicks I went on dates with or ‘hung out’ with, I really found none very interesting. different relationship.
Reason #3: There seems to be this perception that me smiling all the time is my bullshit customer service face. I am genuinely happy nearly all the time. Somewhere along the line I learned to not get worked up over negative small things & enjoy the positive small things. There is so much to be optimistic about & negativity just ruins that. My personal confidence is at an all-time high because of this. I could have dated the 1st woman who said hi to make myself feel better, & it might have worked for a while, but the wheels would have come off. You don’t’ just jump out of a relationship & straight into another without consequences. You can beat it for a while, but it is going to catch up with you. It has been long enough & a lot of things have changed within me. I think even if I dated any past girlfriends, it be a completely different.
So what up now? I make a huge distinction between women o see. There are those I date & those I have relationships with. The dating develops into relationships. My personal requirements are much lower for those I date over those I will have a serious relationship with. This summer I am not even thinking past August. This summer is going to be crazy, absolutely crazy. The last few weeks I have been drinking a little more & warming up for the summer. I am pretty much throwing my newly learned concept, moderation, out the window. This equation usually adds up to crazy stories I personally can’t recall (i.e. Chris’ B-day). My already low stress level is nonexistent & life is far less predictable. I am going to actually make the effort to date. It should be interesting.
The thing with dating & me is that I worry too little about it. What comes, comes, & what goes, goes. I am not the best looking guy, nor the most personable, etc, etc., but I am supremely confident in what I bring to the table. Confidence is the #1 key to dating. You want know how assholes get hot chicks? They honestly believe in the horseshit they sell. You have to believe on what you are selling (yourself). If you don’t, how is the person you are trying to date going to buy into it? Approaches such as whining or pity just don’t work, sorry to break the news.
What do I look for? For dating, just someone I can look at & talk to. Really pretty simple, I am not looking for Paris Hilton, but not a burn victim either. I guess that leaves a little too much in-between. For a relationship, everyone think I have this idealistic, perfect woman in my head. I am probably a little pickier than most people, but I am not nearly as tough on woman as people think I am. I like a woman that has class in her style. That is open to interpretation, but self respect permeates every facet of your personality. Family & friends mean a ton to me & should to her. Education & personal growth means a lot to me & should to her. Someone who likes to go out, be social, & is open to new things is also important. The only thing I am really weird about is cleanliness. I have become an absolute neat freak. This applies to me & my possessions. I can’t even adequately explain this. There are people that just have a clean appearance & people that have a dirty appearance. There isn’t much in-between with me. Does that make sense to anyone? Someone with a personality & brain….no, no, noooooooooooo…… I have this weird taste in woman I guess. Things either click for me or they don’t & it is usually immediate with me (Outside of that 1% of supermodel women.). I see certain women & think, “That is it.” If something like that happens, my life has kind of cleared itself to facilitate a relationship. This summer I am only working 1 or 2 nights a week. Next school year I am off Fri, Sat, & Sun, I have never had time like I have now.
This has turned into some kind of personal ad. I will stop before it gets really pathetic. This should help explain a little psych behind my dating. Enough with the, “He need to lower his standards stuff.” From now on my response will be, “You need to meet MY criteria.”
Reason #1: I don’t date coworkers, I am the guy that doesn’t flirt with anyone in work & doesn’t want in on any drama.
Reason #2: I said I would only date someone if I thought it could go somewhere. Of the few chicks I went on dates with or ‘hung out’ with, I really found none very interesting. different relationship.
Reason #3: There seems to be this perception that me smiling all the time is my bullshit customer service face. I am genuinely happy nearly all the time. Somewhere along the line I learned to not get worked up over negative small things & enjoy the positive small things. There is so much to be optimistic about & negativity just ruins that. My personal confidence is at an all-time high because of this. I could have dated the 1st woman who said hi to make myself feel better, & it might have worked for a while, but the wheels would have come off. You don’t’ just jump out of a relationship & straight into another without consequences. You can beat it for a while, but it is going to catch up with you. It has been long enough & a lot of things have changed within me. I think even if I dated any past girlfriends, it be a completely different.
So what up now? I make a huge distinction between women o see. There are those I date & those I have relationships with. The dating develops into relationships. My personal requirements are much lower for those I date over those I will have a serious relationship with. This summer I am not even thinking past August. This summer is going to be crazy, absolutely crazy. The last few weeks I have been drinking a little more & warming up for the summer. I am pretty much throwing my newly learned concept, moderation, out the window. This equation usually adds up to crazy stories I personally can’t recall (i.e. Chris’ B-day). My already low stress level is nonexistent & life is far less predictable. I am going to actually make the effort to date. It should be interesting.
The thing with dating & me is that I worry too little about it. What comes, comes, & what goes, goes. I am not the best looking guy, nor the most personable, etc, etc., but I am supremely confident in what I bring to the table. Confidence is the #1 key to dating. You want know how assholes get hot chicks? They honestly believe in the horseshit they sell. You have to believe on what you are selling (yourself). If you don’t, how is the person you are trying to date going to buy into it? Approaches such as whining or pity just don’t work, sorry to break the news.
What do I look for? For dating, just someone I can look at & talk to. Really pretty simple, I am not looking for Paris Hilton, but not a burn victim either. I guess that leaves a little too much in-between. For a relationship, everyone think I have this idealistic, perfect woman in my head. I am probably a little pickier than most people, but I am not nearly as tough on woman as people think I am. I like a woman that has class in her style. That is open to interpretation, but self respect permeates every facet of your personality. Family & friends mean a ton to me & should to her. Education & personal growth means a lot to me & should to her. Someone who likes to go out, be social, & is open to new things is also important. The only thing I am really weird about is cleanliness. I have become an absolute neat freak. This applies to me & my possessions. I can’t even adequately explain this. There are people that just have a clean appearance & people that have a dirty appearance. There isn’t much in-between with me. Does that make sense to anyone? Someone with a personality & brain….no, no, noooooooooooo…… I have this weird taste in woman I guess. Things either click for me or they don’t & it is usually immediate with me (Outside of that 1% of supermodel women.). I see certain women & think, “That is it.” If something like that happens, my life has kind of cleared itself to facilitate a relationship. This summer I am only working 1 or 2 nights a week. Next school year I am off Fri, Sat, & Sun, I have never had time like I have now.
This has turned into some kind of personal ad. I will stop before it gets really pathetic. This should help explain a little psych behind my dating. Enough with the, “He need to lower his standards stuff.” From now on my response will be, “You need to meet MY criteria.”
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